SheHerTheyThem was founded in 2018 by local East London activist Dom Holmes, as a safe, accessible and open community building initiative for queer women, nonbinary, trans, intersex and gender nonconforming individuals in Newham and the surrounding East London area.

SheHerTheyThem was established because queer women, nonbinary, trans, intersex and gender nonconforming people need space to share resources, establish friendships, and uplift initiatives and organisations that give back to our community. We need spaces to express creatively and politically; to address and resolve the issues that specifically impact us. We need spaces to socialise safely and comfortably without having to make ourselves small or self-censor for our own protection. We need a community which centres our voices and needs.

Since 2018, SheHerTheyThem has created an exciting space to support queer artists, initiatives, organisations and individuals, as well as build friendships and support networks. Our socials produced incredible connections, from finding housemates and forming bands to helping organisations find funding and creatives find work.

However, between losing our venue in August 2023 and the relentless cost of living crisis, SheHerTheyThem could not continue in its original format. And so, launching in August 2025, we move forward with our new queer personals and classifieds zine Would Like To Meet… - a free print publication designed to pick up where our socials left off - a space for those in our community to build connections, with intention, beyond social media.

Our mission is to decentre cis male energy from our queer community and build a platform for the marginalised and minoritised LGBTQ+ voices in a space that supports and encourages collaboration and connection. Our ethos is simple - NO TERFS, NO SWERFS and NO CIS MEN. Cis Men are welcome to support our community by donating to our causes, educating themselves on why we need events such as this, and respectfully allowing us our space.

SheHerTheyThem operates as a non-profit. Every penny we receive goes back into our community. This allows us to cover print, promotion and distribution costs for Would Like To Meet, help charities and organisations in need of support, and cover our very basic admin expenses.

As an inclusive initiative, we ask for donations towards the production of Would Like To Meet… in accordance with our pay-what-you-can policy. No donation is too small (or too big of course) but your generosity helps us to help others. 

We aim to pay those we collaborate with a fair fee, to support organisations that have big hearts but small funding, and to ensure no one feels excluded from our community due to financial constraints. 

We appreciate that times are tough for us all, but your donations allow us to keep providing a platform so that we can continue to build our community.